By Katie Michaels, DERF Lifestyle Colimnist
Yes, even I have been “blinded by love”, lol. Don’t lie, we all have been, at least a little, at least once. I guess you really never can know for sure, but there are a few things that may help you sort out some of the crap we all too often put up with.
Let’s start with jealousy. A little jealousy is OK. A little is expected, even cute. But if your guy flips out or makes a comment every time you talk to another guy? Gives you the third degree? Asks you why you have so many guy friends? No. We don’t like insecure guys. It’s a pain in the butt. It’s not attractive. If you don’t trust us, well, bye then! It’s a huge turn-off. Do you like the third degree every time you talk to a girl? Of course not. There’s a fine line though, girls. If you’re out with your guy and you suddenly run over and start talking to some random guy and don’t even introduce them or acknowledge your guy’s presence, um, be prepared for, at the very least, a little ass-chewing. You deserve it. Apologize immediately. You’re definitely wrong.
And girls, this goes both ways. Just because he’s talking to a female, doesn’t mean he’s sleeping with her, or wants to. Jealousy is reeeeally ugly on girls.
So, how do we offset the negativity of jealousy and insecurity? Well, confidence, of course. Guys find confident girls sexy, well, normal guys do anyway. I agree with that. It is sexy. BUT, that doesn’t mean we have to buy into becoming women with balls that only need their men in bed. No, no, no, no, no. That’s ridiculous and kind of creepy! I must be old-fashioned. I’m OK with that. It’s extremely important to be a confident woman. It’s not always super easy to be confident 24/7 in every area, but absolutely strive for it. You should never let your guy walk all over you (even though, too often, we do). Being confident though, doesn’t mean that we still shouldn’t be treated like a woman (this is where the old-fashioned part is coming in). There are certain things guys should instinctively, always, always do for their girls. At least, if they really care about you, they should, and will. If they aren’t doing them and they’re not sincere, you deserve someone better. Don’t wait for him to change. He won’t. Not all guys are jerks.
So, here’s a few that I think are the most important.
1. First and foremost – your guy should like you for who you are, not what you are.
2. We know our guy thinks we’re pretty, but it’s nice to hear sometimes.
3. He should still think you’re sexy in an old t-shirt and jeans. Full make-up and a sexy dress shouldn’t be your uniform. We like to wear hats too.
4. Let him open the door for you.
5. Say “thank you” when he pays for dinner.
6. Yes, some forms of P.D.A. are inappropriate, but an occasional kiss, holding our hand, a hug for no reason – that’s just sweet, loving and affectionate. We are your girl, right?
7. Just because…he stops what he’s doing, gives you a little kiss, and tells you he loves you – and he means it.
8. Forgiveness is a two-way street.
9. …so is unconditional love.
10. Lie in the grass, look at the stars. Sometimes it’s nice NOT to have sex.
Guys, every time we date a jerk, we get wiser and we take mental notes. I don’t know what’s gotten into me lately; I’m being so nice to you boys!Wow, “old-fashioned” got me thinking, lol, some of you will remember this…name that band…”Don’t Know What You’ve Got (Till it’s Gone)”. Boys, you don’t want that to be your theme song, now do you? Wise up. Be a good guy. It really is hotter. It’s not true that we like the “bad boys.” That WAS from the time long, long ago, in the days of…Cinderella!